Happy new year to all readers all over the world! It's been a long ride for Asian Pop Weekly, and I'm so happy that you've all continued reading :) Wow, it's been a while since I've updated this blog, but now seems a time as good as any to check in and sum up my year.
Last year, my resolution was to keep myself open to infinite possibilities, and to work my hardest to achieve everything I set my mind to. Indeed, I worked my butt off and ran myself empty many times over in order to achieve this aim and in my opinion, I truly did achieve it. So here's five things that I learnt about where keeping yourself open to infinite possibilities and not limiting yourself could take you:
Sometimes your 'best' isn't really your best
Previously would always tell myself 'if you tried your hardest then you should be satisfied with what you achieved', but although I kept telling myself this, I'd always end up in tears or still putting myself through the wringer for not meeting my own expectations. Truth is, although I thought I was trying hard enough, I wasn't. I was putting in the leg work, all the hours, but my heart just wasn't in it. It was only after I started taking this C-pop thing seriously that I truly realised it. For whenever you truly internalise your vision and feel it both with your mind and soul, that's where drive and success comes from. So that's why I say stick to doing what you love and try to work with it, rather than against it! It'll certainly make you a better, and more successful person (unless you're just a genius then I don't think you really need my advice after all).
Keep your eye on the ball
And another thing I learnt from my resolution in 2015 was to always keep your eye on the ball. In order to succeed at a task, you need to focus 100%. The key to multitasking for me is being able to juggle many things at once, but once I'm working on a particular task, I focus on it until I get it done. And be aggressive when you're focusing on what you're doing. Be rigorous in your assessment of how well you've completed it, and work at it until you're satisfied. Eye of the tiger, as they say!
Don't set your limitations too soon
The 'infinite possibilities' resolution was also about not setting yourself limitations and believing that you could achieve anything. This means steeling your gut and heart towards any obstacles that you may face and bravely trying to achieve it. Sometimes if you believe that you can't achieve something from the get go, and have that kind of mentality even when you attempt it, you lose focus and heart and those two are very important elements for success. So when you encounter a task that seems impossible to you, what I like to do is dive straight into it, without leaving myself time to react to the seeming impossibility of the situation. So don't let yourself be one of those people who moan to their peers "it's too hard, I can't do it" and let yourself fall into agreement with them! Keep that mouth shut and tell yourself "I can do it, this is easy!" and hopefully it'll work like a charm!
There are pros, but also cons
Give and Take
Of course as with anything, in order to achieve your visions and aims, there is something you need to give up. And for me this year, it was pretty drastic. Handling a website, contributing to other media as well as putting University as my first priority is really not something I would recommend. Even now, on New Years' Day I sit here typing alone on the sofa while everyone has gone to sleep! But I pretty much gave up my social life, didn't eat right and basically just didn't take care of myself physically in a way that I should have. At times I neglected my family and friends because as much as I tried to juggle it all, I really couldn't.
Humans are not an island
This year I also realised that spending long periods of time alone, both physically and mentally is not a great choice to make. I'm not entirely sure if I was because there was basically nobody around to tell me if I was, but I felt as if I was getting more self absorbed by the day, constantly thinking about me, me, me. What I was going to put on my website next, what I should choose for my final university project, what i would get in my next report...and the list goes on. Obviously it's not as drastic as me standing in the mirror and calling myself pretty everyday, but in this world that we live in, I believe we should never lose touch with others. As an introverted person, I like to have time in my own world, but I'm a strong believer that this world should always be interconnected with those of others. Humans were not made to be islands, and if we continue to walk around all day immersed in our Facebook thinking just about ourselves everyday, we would all become selfish, self-absorbed beings who didn't care about the well-being of others around us. And one day, I just realised that I don't want to be that person (although I do spend an awful lot of time on Facebook!).
So being able to achieve your aims has its pros and cons, but the trick is to perhaps try it all in moderation. I hope these tips helped you in case you were thinking about having a similar resolution for 2016! Stay tuned for my 2016 new year resolutions, and I really do hope that all APW readers have a fruitful and happy new year!
It's been my dream since I started getting to know more about Chinese music to be able to live in Taipei, and now I'm finally going to be able to! Starting from the 11th of February, I will be staying in Taipei for 139 days and hope to share parts of my experiences that may be helpful with readers everywhere! This may include upcoming events in Taipei, concert reviews, and just titbits on life in Taipei in general. (Feb 2014)