Resolutions are a tricky thing. You don't want to have too few, but you also don't want to have too many. It's all about finding the perfect balance, and also actually having the resolve to conquer them! I mildly remember having made a resolution to drink more water in the year 2014, but I literally had forgotten all about it by February 2014, and have only remembered it now as this year's resolution. But I think I've figured out a theme for my resolutions that will help it to stick a lot better.
This year, my resolutions will revolve around there being infinite possibilities, and a viewpoint of myself as having no restrictions. To be the best person you can be, you have to find your boundaries but I think I've sold myself a little short in the last few years. Time to rediscover myself! So to reiterate, this means less sleeping in (I think I do have more energy than I always think I do), drinking more water (who doesn't have time to drink water?!), and most importantly, to always, always move forward. I once heard someone say that if they improve just 1% everyday, sooner or later they'll get there. And it's true. The greatest achievements come from a series of small steps. Just take it easy, take it slow and always, always believe that you can achieve it (even if you don't exactly know what 'it' is yet.
As for me and Chinese music, definitely as I started out I never thought in a million years that I would be so involved with it like I am today. It was just something I loved, and nurtured. Before I even knew it, I had gotten so deep into it that it just snowballed into something bigger and bigger. I love what I'm doing now, but I'm always striving to better myself as much as possible. To be able to make a difference, and to help people using the gifts that I've nurtured. Maybe in another life, I would've been a doctor, a teacher even. But in this life, I'm so happy to be where I am now. The road ahead is long, but lets hope it leads me to even more spectacular views.
2014 has been the best year of my life so far, but infinite possibilities means that I can possibly use my perseverance and hard work to make 2015 an even better year.
I'll leave you all with a song that's been a subtle favourite of mine in 2014; helping me through the good times and the bad. Tanya Chua's <Keep Breathing> has a pace as steady as a heartbeat, little flutters of elements that when interwoven throughout the song create a slow, steady feeling of moving forward, but yet does so with a sense of calm that is in part to do with Tanya's warm vocals.
What are some of your resolutions for 2015? Feel free to share them with me, and I truly hope that you all have a wonderful 2015 too!
When I went to Taiwan, it was kind of like a free pass for me to do whatever the hell I wanted. I was alone in a foreign country; no friends, no family; nothing to hold you back. So of course as I started to make more friends, late night dinners, karaoke-ing, midnight runs and bike rides (that I always protested at) became a constant in my life. No curfews and living by myself meant that I basically had a free pass to make myself happy; with no obligations to compromise with family members on certain issues, or trying to wrangle a few hours of talking time from friends who seemed to be eternally busy with their own lives.
I thought to myself, you know, why not? You're probably never going experience this kind of freedom ever again in your life, so you might as well make the most of it while you can. And so for the first time in my life, I gave myself permission to put myself first. I've always felt it was my obligation to put others before myself; to me it just seemed like the moral and right thing to do. I always thought, it's not like I can't afford to give in to these people so I might as well. But giving in soon turned into being taken advantage of, and the relaxed attitude that I had towards the situation at hand had turned into a kind of resignation to my fate as the one who always had the short end of the straw. But what I realised somewhere along the way was that in order to extend the greatest kindness and love to others; you must first encourage it within yourself.
And it's not like I hadn't heard this line before, I just thought that it was a whole bunch of bullcrap in the midst of my busy life. But as time wasting as it might sound, making yourself happy is actually the most productive thing you could do both for yourself, and for others around you. When I came back from Taipei, I'm pretty sure I did all my chores for six months without even complaining ONCE. Okay maybe a couple of times… But I consciously put in the effort to make things easier for everyone by pulling my weight AND by not complaining about it. The not-as-happy me would definitely not have enough energy or wisdom to not complain about the chores despite any conflicts that might arise. It might sound like just a small thing, but it's a really big deal to me.
My friends who have come back from taiwan and enjoyed it as much as me have also told me the same thing; their grades have gone up because they're so much happier than they were before! So at any chance you get, I hope you can take some time out of your daily schedule to concentrate on things that you love to do. Because your happiness should be as important to you as everyone else's. Business is addictive; everyone's trying to get somewhere in this big world of opportunities. But what they didn't tell you is that being able to set time apart from others just for yourself is a real skill. It's one that I haven't mastered yet, but I hope that you have, or are on your way to mastering it too! Trust me, it's all for the best.
I'd like to share with you a happy happy song, coincidentally of the same name of this post, <As long as you're happy> by Chen Si Han featuring Penny Dai. Enjoy!
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